Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Are You Successful...and Secretly Unhappy?

Women today are experiencing some of the best opportunities and the greatest successes we've ever had. Never before has there been so much support for us to step out and be the best at whatever we want to be.

We have incredible support systems and networks with friends, associates and families. Even companies are opening doors and allowing women to move ahead like never before. So…why are we still basically unhappy?

There’s that feeling of...something's missing…this is not enough, a kind of disconnect within us. We may ask ourselves; where’s the satisfaction and deep fulfillment we thought would come from our accomplishments and successes?

If this sounds like you, you're probably also feeling isolated because you're holding your real feelings in. It’s like your own little secret that you can’t share.

After all, you have everything you've dreamed of. Maybe you have great relationships, money, your dream job or business.

You may feel like you're the only one. Maybe you’re feeling a little 'guilty' because from all appearances you should be over the moon with your life…but you aren’t.

You can’t tell anyone because you think they’ll consider you ungrateful, insecure...maybe even a little dysfunctional because no matter what you have, it's never enough?

Well, take heart. You're not alone. Many women feel this way. They share your little 'secret'!  

The real issue isn't with what you have, or have done. Things and accomplishments, don’t make you happy, unless you already are. Happiness comes from within. The problem is more complicated than that.

Many of us have had heartbreaks, personal losses, hurts and disappointments that have never healed. Perhaps we lost a great love, a child, a dream was crushed, or we suffered some kind of physical, verbal or emotional abuse in our past.

As professional women, we tend to 'move past' these kinds of experiences and sweep them under the rug. We bury ourselves in our work, and tell ourselves we don’t have time to heal our emotions. We just ‘deal with it’! But, we don’t really deal with it at all.

In time, we may feel better but that’s because we’ve consciously buried our feelings. We think we’ve healed, but what we’ve really done is ‘swept our stuff under our emotional rug’…and the stuff is still there.

For the most part, we function fine and life goes on. But, the truth is, these unhealed emotions are like ticking time bombs…subject to blow up at any time. And, when they do, they can blow your life apart….I know…it happened to me.

So, what are some indicators that you may have this ticking time bomb inside of you? The biggest one is you’re unhappy! Maybe you feel depressed, have headaches, anxiety, sleeplessness, feel mis-understood, invisible or unappreciated.

Do you drink a little too much, or too often? Do you overeat? Do you bury yourself in work and never take time for fun? Maybe you suppress your feelings and you’ve shut your heart down...maybe you’re taking medications that really don’t seem to work.

The real issue is the heart-broken little girl inside of you, she’s still hurting. To help her heal, you must lift the rug, connect with her and heal her broken little heart. She’s been neglected and basically told to go to her room. Your intention was to deal with her needs later…but you never did.

Well ladies…it’s time to open the door, call her out and give her the love, healing and attention she needs and deserves. She’s not going away and she can’t heal herself, but you can and you must.

No amount of success, accumulations of possessions, or even the most loving partner can help you heal the hole in that little girl’s heart. That’s something only you can do.

The great news is, the solution is simple; you can do it, and it doesn’t take that long when you have the right tools. Don’t get me wrong…I didn’t say easy…I said simple.

So, the question is…do you want to be happy? Do you want to actually enjoy the success and accomplishments you’ve worked so hard to achieve…yes?

Then, the next question is…what are you going to do about it? The tools are available, I have them…all you have to do is use them.

Is this you? Do you know anyone who’s like this…successful and unhappy…maybe feeling like there’s nothing they can do about it? Please share this article with them. I’d really love to help.

Lyn Williams

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Someone Asked, Is 'PTSD' Contagious? Here's My Answer...

When a ‘warrior’ comes home from the battlefield, they carry tremendous emotional damage from the violence and atrocities they’ve experienced. Some people are stronger than others, so they may not exhibit the extreme behaviors that some others do.

We know that women who’ve been abused, raped, experienced violence and major loss, etc, suffer from a form of PTSD. The trauma they’re exposed to from PTSD partners is transferred like this:

Imagine living with a man (or woman) who’s spent months or years with gunfire around them, being shot at, feeling threatened 24-hrs a day and living in constant fear of dying in a violent confrontation.

In war zones, physical threats of death…violent death is a way of life. Battles bring another intense form of trauma. The bombs, the deaths of friends, seeing/experiencing horrible injuries, dead bodies, attacks from the enemy…all of this is constant.

When the warrior comes home, they can’t just leave all of that stuff behind like flipping a light switch. Very often they have violent nightmares, are very depressed and paranoid; some are too afraid to leave home and can’t handle crowds our being in public places.

A car backfiring can set off a fear experience or a defensive assault against whomever’s around. In our society, even real gunfire is possible in our neighborhoods, and that can trigger an episode. They often become alcoholics and drug abusers as they try to cope. This adds another layer of dysfunction.

Imagine being awakened in the middle of the night with your partner sitting on your chest with his hands around your throat, choking you because he’s in the middle of a nightmare memory of a battle experience and he thinks you’re the enemy.

Imagine awaking to the sounds of screams and seeing him or her fighting off an ‘imaginary’ assailant, in an encounter you can’t see or understand.

Imagine living with sudden outbursts of fear and anger as they struggle with the emotional roller coaster of a severely traumatized soul and mind.

That loving partner that left a year ago, may come home completely transformed into a violent, uncontrollable, unpredictable monster.

I remember my friends, William and Sandy having these experiences after he returned from Viet Nam, back in the 60s. The battlefields of today may be even worse because our weapons and tactics are more advanced. Not to mention our soldiers are experiencing multiple deployments now.

The families of these ‘warriors’ are in no way prepared or capable of dealing with the after effects of a war-damaged psyche. Our professionals are having a hard time treating them and they’re trained to heal these conditions.

EFT seems to be one of the most effective healing modalities for treating these conditions so far. It’s being used to help the soldiers and first responders who’ve had recent trauma and is also being used for some long term trauma victims of previous wars like Viet Nam and Desert Storm.

I woke up this morning remembering what my friend William went through after returning from Viet Nam. Until you’ve witnessed one of their outbursts, it’s hard to imagine what it’s like.

This is how the trauma of PTSD can be ‘transmitted’ to the family of the warrior; and it’s not just the partners, the children will be affected too. Unfortunately, they’re probably not as vocal about what they’re experiencing and probably are not getting the attention they need either.

We’ll probably see more of how the children have been affected as they grow up and act out their own traumatized behaviors. Who knows, we may already be seeing the effects now, as some of the kids shooting other people are teens who could have had parents deployed in Desert Storm.

As an energy healer and life coach, I encourage anyone who’s experiencing any form of PTSD to seek help from an EFT Practitioner and medical professional. Whether you’re a wounded warrior, an abused woman or the child of a PTSD sufferer, ask for help as soon as possible.

Assistance and healing is available. EFT (aka Tapping) works! It’s one of the most effective healing practices currently being used to help those with PTSD.

I used it, along with Reiki to heal my own moderate PTSD and depression experiences over the last decade, which is why I’m an energy healer working with clients today.

I don’t work specifically with PTSD sufferers, but I do work with clients who have light to moderate depression, and those who’re looking to have happier lives in general. Being sad, unhappy and feeling isolated is an indication that depression may be an issue.

I’m not a therapist; I’m a counselor and coach, which is why I limit my practice to those who are healthy enough to help themselves.

If you’re suffering from severe PTSD or depression (thinking of suicide would qualify as severe depression), please seek professional help from a medical or psychiatric professional right away.

Love and Light to you Always...
Rev. Lyn

Monday, January 21, 2013

Wonderful America!

On this very ‘Special’ day as we celebrate the birthday of one of our greatest leaders, Martin Luther King, and the inauguration of our 44th President of the United States, Barack Obama, the first African American president, we’re also celebrating Freedom, Choice, Love and Service.

So, in honor of this ‘Wonderful’ expression of what America is really all about, I give thanks for and bless our ‘Wondrous’ nation for the opportunities it provides for us to freely express and experience ourselves, pursue our dreams and have prosperity and abundance on whatever levels we desire.

There’s no other place on Earth, I’d rather be than right here in America…it’s home! And, despite our challenges, at the core of our beliefs and values are the rights that we enjoy and celebrate today.

I honor all of those who’ve sacrificed so much for all of us, so that we can have the privilege of free will choice, our ancestors, our military and their families.

In my lifetime, great change has happened in our lives: Civil Rights for women and children that’s now resonating around the world, women’s rights to have their own credit, the right to love whomever you choose, birth control, man walking on the moon, the introduction of color TV, the Internet, Cell phones, DNA technology, commercial air travel, the fall of the Berlin Wall and the USSR…and too many other transformational events to name.

When I was a child, African Americans couldn’t even ride at the front of a bus or vote without great risk to life and limb; and being the leader of one of the greatest countries on Earth was really…just a dream.

But, now the world has changed, and it’s changing even more every day. I’m amazed at what has transpired, and excited to see what’s to come.

Today, I can proudly say, it is ‘Wonderful’ to be an ‘American Woman’, helping to make those changes happen by continuing to express my truth and exercise my free will choices in ways that can only happen here in this ‘Wonderful’ place called America!

God bless America! And, God bless all of you!

Monday, January 14, 2013

Transforming Your Life - What's your 2013 'wonder-ful' A-HA moment?

Today, I was 'wondering', have you had any 'A-HA' moments recently, regarding the progress of your dreams, life-path or purpose?

Have you overcome a very challenging behavior or belief; moved away from a dysfunctional life situation; or changed careers to follow your dream...

My most significant ‘A-HA’ moment was that I'd turned a corner energetically.

I've experienced many setbacks and experiences of lack and limitation in recent years. But, the Law of Attraction/Law of Manifestation work I've been doing to shift my energy, mindset and intentions has actually shifted.

I don’t have that worry-fear-stress like I used to. And, my needs are being met, even when I can’t see how it will happen. And, when I do get stressed, I use my tools and the worry-feelings reside much faster. I’m actually attracting what I need to me.

I’ve moved past my insecurities and created my first 'coaching' video series in December. Now, I’m helping other women in transition to do the same.

Even though I wasn't exactly where I 'wanted' to be on my path, and everything wasn't perfect, I realized where I was, was 'good enough'. I decided to start from right where I was and allow myself to be guided to my next steps.

Now I'm getting feedback from the new clients who are using my coaching program. It's been so great to hear about their progress and experiences...like watching a child grow up. I love rejoicing with them and hearing their stories.

If I hadn't taken my 'leap of faith' and trusted that I was ready, they wouldn't be having the wonderful, transformational experiences they're having now. That makes my heart sing!♥

What's your 'wonder-ful' A-HA moment?


Want to transform you life? Find out how you can become a Law of Attraction Master and transform your life, email me at: talkwithlyn@gmail.com