Someone Asked, Is 'PTSD' Contagious? Here's My Answer...

When a ‘warrior’ comes home from the battlefield, they carry tremendous emotional damage from the violence and atrocities they’ve experienced. Some people are stronger than others, so they may not exhibit the extreme behaviors that some others do.

We know that women who’ve been abused, raped, experienced violence and major loss, etc, suffer from a form of PTSD. The trauma they’re exposed to from PTSD partners is transferred like this:

Imagine living with a man (or woman) who’s spent months or years with gunfire around them, being shot at, feeling threatened 24-hrs a day and living in constant fear of dying in a violent confrontation.

In war zones, physical threats of death…violent death is a way of life. Battles bring another intense form of trauma. The bombs, the deaths of friends, seeing/experiencing horrible injuries, dead bodies, attacks from the enemy…all of this is constant.

When the warrior comes home, they can’t just leave all of that stuff behind like flipping a light switch. Very often they have violent nightmares, are very depressed and paranoid; some are too afraid to leave home and can’t handle crowds our being in public places.

A car backfiring can set off a fear experience or a defensive assault against whomever’s around. In our society, even real gunfire is possible in our neighborhoods, and that can trigger an episode. They often become alcoholics and drug abusers as they try to cope. This adds another layer of dysfunction.

Imagine being awakened in the middle of the night with your partner sitting on your chest with his hands around your throat, choking you because he’s in the middle of a nightmare memory of a battle experience and he thinks you’re the enemy.

Imagine awaking to the sounds of screams and seeing him or her fighting off an ‘imaginary’ assailant, in an encounter you can’t see or understand.

Imagine living with sudden outbursts of fear and anger as they struggle with the emotional roller coaster of a severely traumatized soul and mind.

That loving partner that left a year ago, may come home completely transformed into a violent, uncontrollable, unpredictable monster.

I remember my friends, William and Sandy having these experiences after he returned from Viet Nam, back in the 60s. The battlefields of today may be even worse because our weapons and tactics are more advanced. Not to mention our soldiers are experiencing multiple deployments now.

The families of these ‘warriors’ are in no way prepared or capable of dealing with the after effects of a war-damaged psyche. Our professionals are having a hard time treating them and they’re trained to heal these conditions.

EFT seems to be one of the most effective healing modalities for treating these conditions so far. It’s being used to help the soldiers and first responders who’ve had recent trauma and is also being used for some long term trauma victims of previous wars like Viet Nam and Desert Storm.

I woke up this morning remembering what my friend William went through after returning from Viet Nam. Until you’ve witnessed one of their outbursts, it’s hard to imagine what it’s like.

This is how the trauma of PTSD can be ‘transmitted’ to the family of the warrior; and it’s not just the partners, the children will be affected too. Unfortunately, they’re probably not as vocal about what they’re experiencing and probably are not getting the attention they need either.

We’ll probably see more of how the children have been affected as they grow up and act out their own traumatized behaviors. Who knows, we may already be seeing the effects now, as some of the kids shooting other people are teens who could have had parents deployed in Desert Storm.

As an energy healer and life coach, I encourage anyone who’s experiencing any form of PTSD to seek help from an EFT Practitioner and medical professional. Whether you’re a wounded warrior, an abused woman or the child of a PTSD sufferer, ask for help as soon as possible.

Assistance and healing is available. EFT (aka Tapping) works! It’s one of the most effective healing practices currently being used to help those with PTSD.

I used it, along with Reiki to heal my own moderate PTSD and depression experiences over the last decade, which is why I’m an energy healer working with clients today.

I don’t work specifically with PTSD sufferers, but I do work with clients who have light to moderate depression, and those who’re looking to have happier lives in general. Being sad, unhappy and feeling isolated is an indication that depression may be an issue.

I’m not a therapist; I’m a counselor and coach, which is why I limit my practice to those who are healthy enough to help themselves.

If you’re suffering from severe PTSD or depression (thinking of suicide would qualify as severe depression), please seek professional help from a medical or psychiatric professional right away.

Love and Light to you Always...
Rev. Lyn
http://www.thewomanexec.com

A word of perspective on recent events and December 12th & 21st

A word of perspective on recent events, and those that are yet to come as we ascend with Mother Earth, co-create and embrace our new lives:

I stopped watching the news reports after the 5pm news broadcast that day. I usually watch ABC Evening News with Diane Sawyer, but when they announced a special 1 hour edition, I decided then and there...no more news shows for several days...to let the furor die down.

I don’t want that energy in my consciousness, especially now; and you should be diligent and protect your consciousness too. We’re in a very powerful creative mode. That’s what all of the 12/12 and 12/21 talk is about.

I wish the media wouldn't give so much attention to these events. It's so incendiary. It encourages the mentally ill, weak-minded and unconscious to do things that will get them on tv, no matter what the cost, or how much damage they do in the process.

However, I also know that the energy behind these behaviors is that of Darkness. It is its last ditch effort to survive by creating fear and inflicting pain and suffering as we ascend into the Light.

Fear and suffering are the sustenance of Darkness, and as we buy into it, we feed that dark energy. This gives it power; at least for a little while.

But, there’s so much Light being sent to us now, and so much that’s already here, that it doesn’t really matter what the Darkness does now. We are ascending with Mother Earth.

We are co-creating a new world, along with Creator, Spirit and Mother Earth. We’re giving birth to something entirely new. What do you want to that be…look like…feel like? Set your attention there!

It’s like a new baby. Birth is a messy, intense and even risky process. But, it’s also a wonderful experience of love, once the new life emerges.

We’re now in the ‘labor’ stage. 12/12 has already passed. It was our turning onto the walkway as we approach the door.

On 12/21 we will walk through the door and leave all that isn’t of the Light behind. It’s not that all will be perfect overnight, but it will be phenomenal just the same.

I view it like moving into a new home. You move in, and once all your things are unloaded, you shut the door and your new life begins. There’s the unpacking, arranging, finding your way around your new surroundings…getting used to its energy and adjusting to your new life.

While the transition is in process many things will happen. Some of it will be challenging, but more of it will be enlightening and inspiring. Some changes will be subtle, while others will be profound.

All of us will experience it in our own ways; according to our sensitivity, perspectives and levels of awareness. This is a very auspicious time for Earth and for all of her life forms.

Stay focused on the energies of Light, Love, Balance, Order, Security, Comfort and Power…give your energy to that which you want to happen; despite appearances and what you see around you…give your attention to the Light!

In the next weeks and months, we may find ourselves processing through more disturbing events. Keep them in perspective. Use your ‘MAP’ tools (meditation, affirmation and prayer) as often as necessary to stay centered and comfortable.

Ask your angels and guides for guidance, protection, clarity and assistance where and when you need it. They are here for us and are available 24/7, but you must ask. Asking is simple.

If you don’t know a particular angel or guide’s name, just ask for assistance from the angels and guides of the Light, Love, of higher realms, of heaven and those who serve Spirit, and they will come.

Remember to support this transitional process with your love, light and courage. Light always dispels darkness. So, turn on your light, and let it shine brightly…and all will be well!

Love and Light to you always…

 

Rev Lyn

Law of Attraction: Why Doesn't It Work for Me?

There are a great many examples and displays of the Law of Attraction and how it works all around us. There are also lots of writings, perspectives and explanations of its power; and all are very enlightening. But, many are lacking substance and useful information.

In my heart I can't help feeling a bit disappointed that the world we live in has mis-lead and brainwashed us so badly that our experience of the Law has been distorted at best, and in too many instances…damaging.

For many people, the mis-use of the Law of Attraction has created more painful experiences than pleasant ones. These painful experiences have created emotional blocks and scars that have compromised our joy, love, success and even our health. As a result, we have to overcome many issues, and are required to re-train our minds in order to make this ‘natural process’ work for us.

Most of us feel like the Law of Attraction is working us, instead of us working the Law. And, there’s some truth to this belief. It seems so unfair, because this Law, this Divine Energy was designed to be our benefactor and the creative medium we were to use to create the lives of our dreams.

But, rather than go into all of the reasons why we’ve come to this place of ignorance and confusion about the Law of Attraction, I’ll use this time to talk about how we can correct our beliefs and behaviors, so we can begin to experience the wonderful things the Law can bring to us.

There are many ‘Laws’ of the Universe. There’s the ‘Law of Belief’: it is done unto you as you believe. There’s the ‘Law of Gravity’: it’s what makes this physical Universe possible; it’s what holds everything together, and us to the Earth.

And, there’s the ‘Law of Attraction’, which is more commonly interpreted as you ‘reap what you sow’; simply put, that’s exactly what it is. You receive the energy equivalent of what you put out. And, like the other Laws, it works whether you know it exists or not; whether you believe it works or not; and whether or not you consciously work with it.

The Law of Gravity is based on the power of magnetism. It always ensures that everything physical will be drawn to the center of gravity of the largest celestial body around or near it. This is a very simplistic explanation that suffices for this conversation.

The Law of Attraction is based on energetic/emotional vibrations. Here on Earth, we are the emotional vibration centers. Therefore, the Law will draw to us, our emotional vibrational equivalent.

All emotions have vibrational frequencies. You can feel the energies of love, joy, fear and hate. Love and joy make us feel good; fear and hate do not. For us it means that what we feel, determines what comes to us. In order for the Law of Attraction to work for us and attract the things we want, we have to be emoting at certain vibrational frequencies…consistently.

And, therein lies the problem. Most of us are not in control of our emotions. Very often we’re expressing them dysfunctionally, and at other times, we’re in the ‘negative zone’. As a result, we create more of what we don’t want, than what we want.

For example, many of us are filled with fear, worry, stress, anger, resentment and depression. These are very low frequency emotions that restrict the ability of the Law of Attraction to bring the good things we want in life to us. These energies are incompatible with the positive energies of abundance, prosperity, love, joy and success.

It’s like the energy fields of a magnet; one end is positively charged and the other end is negatively charged. When the compatible energy ends of two magnets face each other, they are drawn together. When the opposing energy ends face each other, the magnets are pushed apart.

Our emotions work the same way. So, in order for us to use the Law of Attraction correctly, we have to get our emotions vibrating at a level that attracts what we want, instead of repelling it. It’s a principle of the Universe that incompatible energies can’t come together.

As simple as the concept of the Law of Attraction is, there are many complexities underlying how we interact with it. Our experiences, beliefs, programming (by parental and societal training and behaviors), all affect our ability to work with the Law.

Our experiences and belief systems are usually set during our childhood. We are deeply imprinted by what we see, feel and hear from our parents, teachers, and surroundings early on. Let’s talk about that for a minute.

If you grew up in a home where your parents struggled with money and never seemed to have enough; maybe even fought a lot about the lack and limitations the were experiencing, you probably have a lack and limitation mindset that’s deeply rooted in your subconscious mind.

Without knowing it, you continue to create the lack and limitation conditions that you learned in your childhood. Those deep seated, unconscious belief systems will require clearing in order for you to turn things around. But, don’t worry…it can be cleared.

Conversely, if you grew up in a home where there was abundance and prosperity, and your parents were loving and respectful of each other and their children, you probably have an unconscious ability to make the Law of Abundance work for you. You simply do it without thinking about it.

Another channel for negative programming may come from our religious training, or lack thereof. Perhaps you were told that money was evil, or that rich people were materialistic and selfish. That they took advantage of others and couldn’t be trusted.

You may have been taught that having money would ruin you, or that you’d be corrupted if you ever became successful and wealthy. Maybe you were taught that money wasn’t spiritual and that only poor people would be worthy of going to heaven.

But, none of that is true. And yet, you were programmed to live a life of lack and limitation, fear and insecurity and confusion. As a result, no amount of positive thinking is going to make the Law of Attraction work for you until you clear and reframe your beliefs. Then and only then, will you be able to work the Law of Attraction as it was designed and intended.

The bottom line is this. You CAN change your beliefs, learn to use the Law of Attraction correctly, and create the life you’ve always wanted. There are practices, techniques and healing modalities available to make this transformation happen.

All you have to do is decide you want to live a life of abundance, joy and love, and then take action to make it happen. Your life won’t transform overnight, but once you start the journey, you will see results…and fairly quickly.

So…it’s all up to you! You can live in denial and limitation and tell yourself there’s nothing you can do about it, or you can take control of your life and make the Law work for you. Make that choice today…and start living the life of your dreams.

Love and Light to you always…♥
Law of Attraction: Making It Work for You
Intro: http://youtu.be/JJhlXqS3nZg
A New Story:  http://youtu.be/rWgXdYZHBI4

Women, PTSD and Alternative Healing

An associate is writing a piece on the connection and impacts of PTSD on the recovery of brain injury victims. She asked those of us who’ve dealt with it for comments. As I wrote my response, I realized that this information could be important to others in many ways.

I don't have a brain injury, but I've been dealing with PTSD for about 7 years now as a result of several years of emotional and mental abuse in a marriage. It was compounded when he and my youngest, and last surviving sister both passed within 6 months of each other. Shortly after, I lost my career, and soon ran out of money, all of this happened within a year (2005-2006).

When my symptoms first appeared in late 2004, I began to realize I hadn't healed from other loses either. My son was murdered in 1988, and my second oldest sister was murdered in 1990, both victims of violence. My mom and my oldest sister passed between 1995 and 1987, respectively.

I tried traditional treatments but they didn't help much. So I turned to alternative healing. I became a Reiki Master and Tapping practitioner and used these energy healing modalities to heal myself and understand how and why it happened to me.

I used to think PTSD was a result of war trauma. Now I know that's not always the case. During my research I found statistics saying approx 30% of women suffer from mild to severe PTSD as a result of loss and abuse.

Mine was pretty bad for a long time. I'm still healing, but I'm much better now. Far too often traditional treatments like therapy and medications don't address the energetic and spiritual injuries at the root of PTSD.

We know physical abuse is bad because it leaves scars. However, emotional and mental abuse leave no visible scars because they happen at the soul level. We also don’t realize that along with emotional and mental abuse, there’s usually a sexual abuse component. That can be mild to severe in its own right.

Unless you’ve experienced it yourself, you don’t realize how incredibly damaging any kind of abuse can be. But, once the deep soul-level issues are healed, the trauma heals too.

Unfortunately, our society doesn't recognize the real impact of abuse unless it's physical, so the injuries go unnoticed and sufferers are expected and told to 'just get over it and move on'. But, it’s not that simple.

This ‘advice’, though well-intended only makes things worse because it makes the person feel there’s something ‘wrong or broken’ in them because they can’t just get over it and move on. Now their already damaged self-esteem bottoms.

Feelings of helplessness, unworthiness and rejection set in and become impacted in the psyche. The trauma deepens and they sink into despair. This is when substance abuse and thoughts of suicide begin. I know…I’ve been there.

Medications often make things worse because it becomes the lifeline for the sufferer. They can't function without it. Medications are like band-aids on bullet wounds. Healing the real trauma that resides in the 'energy and spiritual body' is the real key to recovery.

For more information and coaching for healing, please send an email to: talkwithlyn@gmail.com

Some articles on Tapping (EFT) Energy Healing and PTSD:

http://www.eftuniverse.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=50

https://battletap.org/home.aspx

The 10 Commandments of Facebook Fan Pages

Do you have a Facebook Fan Page? If you do, are you aware that there are some 'specific rules' you must follow, otherwise you run the risk of the Facebook Police shutting down your fan page...without warning!

It happens all the time, and you'll never get any advance warning. One day you'll just go to your page and it won't be there. 

What if your clients go looking for your page and it's not there? They'll probably assume you closed it down and are no longer in business, while this could be far from the truth.

If you don't have a big following, or are just starting out, this may not be a big deal. You just start over. But...if you have a large following and your business depends on your fan page to thrive...it could be catastrophic!

So, take a look at the list below and see if you're in compliance. If you aren't, take steps to make the necessary changes before you get 'busted'...

Here’s what you need to know…

The Ten Commandments of Facebook Fan Pages

1. Thou shall not have pricing information in your cover

      photo.

2. Thou shall not have purchase information in your

      cover photo.

3. Thou shall not have discount or coupon information in

      your cover photo.

4. Thou shall not have any ‘call to action’ (i.e. Get It

      Now’, Tell Your Friends, Join Our Club, etc)

      information in your cover photo.

5. Thou shall not have any contact information in your

      cover photo.

6. Thou shall not put any references to Facebook

      features i.e. ‘Like My Page’ or ‘Share’ in your cover

      photo.

7. Thou shall not have any false representations in your

      cover photo.

8. Thou shall not have any deceptive or misleading

      information in your cover photo.

9. Thou shall not use any copyrighted photos or

      graphics in your cover photo unless you hold the

      copyright.

10. Thou shall not infringe on any third parties’ intellectual

      property in your photo.

Violate any of these rules (among others) and you run the

risk of Facebook shutting your Fan Page down without

warning.

If you don’t have a page, or you have a casual following, that

may not be a big deal to you.

But, if your Fan Page is business critical, you could lose

$1000s…maybe even the business itself.

I know what the rules are, and I can help you prevent a

disaster.

On the other hand, if you don’t have a Fan Page…you

should create one, or have us create it for you.

No matter how big or how small your business or cause is,

you should have a Facebook Fan Page, create and use your

vanity name, and invite people to ‘Like’ your page.

It helps establish your credibility and presence on the web,

especially if you don’t have a website!

Need some help sorting things out, let me know.

If don’t have a fan page but would like to have

one, send me a message. I can set it up for you.

Lyn

Your Social Media Consultant

http://www.thewomanexec.com

Watch Your Words...They Empower Your Life

Our words have power and using the right ones can move you forward, create obstacles or hold you back.

I was reading a comment from a member of one of my LinkedIn groups who eliminated the auto-response word 'sorry' from her vocabulary and it reminded me of some of the vocabulary adjustments I've made that have made a significant difference in my life.

The first one was the word ‘anxious’. This was several years ago. I wrote a writer friend to express my feelings about having my book published and I said I was ‘anxious’ to get it done. She quickly corrected me and said ‘try using the word ‘eager’ instead of ‘anxious’. It carries a much more positive energy.

The next word swap came from my former Religious Science minister Rev David Phears. We were talking about some experiences I was having after my ex-husband passed. He asked how I was doing and I said, ‘Oh, I’m surviving!’ Immediately he said, ‘Let’s change that word ‘surviving’ to ‘thriving’. It’ll help shift your energy and move you towards healing and perfect health faster.’

He was right! The shift was almost immediate. Even if you're not feeling that powerful in that moment, saying you're thriving empowers and uplifts you, while saying you're surviving depletes your energy and makes you feel helpless or hopeless.

I also replaced 'I'll try or I'm trying' with 'I intend to or I'm intending to'. Trying sends the energy into the future which is uncertain, while 'intend' brings it into the present and sets your intention to succeed.

And, I switched the word 'should' with 'I am going to, or I will...'. This one's a little trickier because it's a subtler transfer of your energy to sometime or somewhere else; it infers 'a maybe...uncertainty'. It allows you an 'out' or an option not to do something.

Most recently, I’ve started using 'I think' instead of 'I believe' because it doesn't make people feel like I'm imposing my views on them or give them the feeling that their opinions should be changed in some way. Saying you 'think' something is sometimes perceived as an attempt convince or change another person's point of view or mindset.

And, even if you are suggesting a change, saying you 'believe' says it's your belief and that it's ok if they don't agree with your belief. I found it to be a softer approach and there's usually less resistance, and it seems to encourage discussion. But, I’m still consciously adjusting with this one, so it’s still a work in progress.

So...what words have you changed to empower the language you use?

It's Official...The APA Agrees That EFT Really Works!

Oh, Happy Day!! EFT (aka Tapping) has just announced this incredible energy healing modality has met the standards of the American Psychological Association (APA) giving EFT the recognition as an evidence-based treatment for several psychological conditions including PTSD! This is a major step in establishing the credibility of this special technique.

'Break out the Champagne! EFT Meets APA Standards: A historic moment has arrived, that marks the fruition of an enormous amount of work and persistence by many, many people. This week we changed the EFT Research page to read as follows: "The current status of EFT as an "evidence-based" practice is summarized in this statement in the APA (American Psychological Association) journal Review of General Psychology: 'A literature search identified 50 peer-reviewed papers that report or investigate clinical outcomes following the tapping of acupuncture points to address psychological issues. The 17 randomized controlled trials in this sample were critically evaluated for design quality, leading to the conclusion that they consistently demonstrated strong effect sizes and other statistical results that far exceed chance after relatively few treatment sessions. Criteria for evidence-based treatments proposed by Division 12 of the American Psychological Association were also applied and found to be met for a number of conditions, including PTSD.' (Feinstein, in press)" This is sober academic language for a seismic shift in the geography of healing. For the past five years, we've worked incredibly hard, through unbelievable obstacles, to complete the research required to meet APA Division 12 standards. This milestone, published in an APA journal, marks a tipping point in EFTs credibility. You can now confidently present your EFT Universe certification in Clinical EFT as training in an "evidence-based" practice.'

As an EFT Practitioner, I'm delighted to have been apart of this wonderful healing practice while it went through its growth and validation processes over the last few years.

If you have a healing issue and you'd like to explore EFT as a possible solution, please contact me at: thewomanexec@gmail.com . I'd be delighted to become your practioner.

To read more about this great step forward in the field of alternative healing modalities, go to http://www.eftuniverse.com

It Is Beautiful!

Dreaming my ideal and perfect life, it’s one I’ve envisioned for a lifetime. I see beautiful surroundings filled with peace, love, light, joy, prosperity, harmony, freedom, perfect health, balance, order and understanding. I see that I belong where I am, with those I am with; and always at home in my own body.

I feel accepted and cherished by those I love, as I cherish and love them in return. I am surrounded and infused by the light and love that permeates and emanates from everything, everywhere.

I see brilliant, vibrant, beautiful colors that seem to make their own music; they sing their own song! The air is clean, fresh, fragrant and warm; yet it is cool and soft. All around me there are the soft harmonies of living music that flows from Life itself.

I am the perfect, loving compassionate, companion; and I am enjoying life with the perfect, loving, compassionate companion for me. We give to and receive from each other all that we need and desire. I am peaceful, serene and content. I am joyful and tranquil; energetic and vital. I am full of life, love and light. I am complete.

I am happy and free. I am filled with power and intention. I am divinely guided in all that I say and do. Beauty and joy are all I know. I sing a song of my own creation; a song I write from moment to moment, as it is a song that is written by the beat of my heart, as it sings with joy and love.

Beautiful flowers are all around me, growing everywhere as far as the eye can see. They dance with delight at every sound. The trees and plants sway in gentle breezes of moist, warm-cool air. The sweet air nourishes everything as it passes in, around and through all of creation; for it is the gentle, sweet Breath of God; the Breath of Life itself.

I rise to celebrate each and every day with joy, thanksgiving and love as I truly appreciate the blessings each day brings. With so much love and light all around me, I am wonderfully and completely blessed and content.

Each day is Life’s gift to me. My appreciation, joy and love are my gifts to Life. I rise, I rejoice and I live!!!

And so it is…

© March 31, 2008

Unconditional Love! A Earthly vs Spiritual Perspective!

Unconditional Love is not an emotion or a belief but a wordless revelation of universal truth. It is inexpressibly tender, beautiful, holy and nourishing. Shrillness, rudeness, confusion and anger will devour it. Without this love the heart is frozen and life is cold, bleak and pathetic in comparison. With this love life becomes refreshed and reborn never to die again. John E. Lewis Jr., May, 2012

John Lewis, a ministerial colleague, posted this statement on an alumni group site I belong to. It initiated some lively discussion of opinions, experiences and perpectives that were very inspiring and enlightening.

So much so, that I was moved to share some of my comments with you today.

Some of the members were commenting on whether or not Unconditional Love was possible for humans, based on where we are now in terms of our current levels of spirituality, limited awareness and evolutionary status.

Some said, they didn’t feel they could really express Unconditional Love to others who were not members of their circle of loved ones because it required a certain level of acceptance that they couldn’t extend to those who weren’t loved ones.

At last count, there were over 75 comments; and the perspectives covered the spectrum from traditional to the esoteric; from the general to the personal. Here’s what I offered for their, and your consideration:

I just wonder if the differences we see in what we call 'Unconditional Love' may be in our understanding of what love is...and confused with what we define 'love' to be. In my very humble opinion, I think they’re two different things.

Perhaps part of the problem is that we confuse the meanings of 'love' and 'Love'. One is physical, and one is spiritual.

In terms of Spirit, and our expressions of it, I believe 'Unconditional Love' is possible and that we embrace/express it…we are it.

But, in the terms of 'love' on the physical plane, we can't be unconditional because it requires some emotional attachment, interpretation or connection. In my opinion, Unconditional Love is in the same category as forgiveness…maybe they’re two sides of the same coin. Unconditional Love is expressing Spirit; it’s ‘without attachment’, while love is expressing emotion and ‘infers attachment’.

It's something you do or give without attachment to the outcome, circumstances or situation. It's merely your allowance for the outcome, circumstance or situation to 'be', whatever form that ‘being’ shows up.

You love someone that's special to you...there's a feeling and an expectation attached to it. But, Unconditional Love can be given to someone you don't know at all, and yet you support them in their life process and experience. Like letting someone be as dysfunctional as they want to be without trying to ‘fix’ them. You may choose to distance yourself from the situation temporarily or permanently. You simply bless them and their situation and allow it to be…detached from the drama and emotion.

For instance, I had a BIG opportunity to express Unconditional Love when it came to dealing with the man who murdered my son. I had the option to hate him, give him power over my life and live with that rage forever. But, I decided early on that he’d already exerted enough power and influence over my life and I was going to put a stop to it immediately, detach from it and live the happy life I had before he made the decision to kill my son.

I didn’t know his story. I didn’t know what events and experiences drove him to become such a violent, dangerous person. I didn’t know him before I saw him in court during those trials. And while I hated what he’d done. I didn’t want to be energetically connected to him any longer than I had to.

I realized that this was my A-ha life lesson about Unconditional Love. Through that experience, I could learn the lesson and live, or avoid the lesson and spend the rest of my life in resistance and pain. In that moment, Unconditional Llove meant loving myself enough to keep living, and allowing him to live his own life, detached from mine. After all, he was a child of Spirit too, whether I liked it our not.

I didn’t know what happened to make him the way he was; I didn’t know why he chose to kill my son. I didn’t know what events or agreements may have taken place on the spiritual plane between him and my son before they came into physical life that set the wheels in motion to bring them together at that point in time.

But, I had to deal with it. I know we all make agreements and plans before we incarnate to ensure we have the experiences we come here to have and serve our life's purpose. Sometimes the manifestation of those agreements looks and/or feels ‘bad’ when we experience them in this space and time. But, who am I to judge their real meanings…I’m only dealing with partial information.

When Spirit says we shouldn’t judge or try to control people and situations, I think that’s the reason why; and that’s also why and when we’re supposed to practice Unconditional Love.

Unconditional Love is not the same love we have for those we ‘love’, but a spiritual practice of allowing each spirit to live and express its life as is appropriate for their path and life's purpose.♥

Much Love and Light to You!