Showing posts with label women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label women. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

I want to run away and hide...

From Guest Blogger Lisa Bloom...
 
Have you ever wished the ground would open up and swallow you?
Did you ever want to run away and hide?
Have you ever thought; this moment is one I just want to forget ever happened?
It's pretty common, yet quite unbearable.
I had offered to tell a story.  I stood up in front of close to 100 people and the energy was all wrong.  I suppose it was a combination of family dynamics (it was an extended family event), unclear expectations (they were waiting for the meal to be served!) and alcohol (them not me!)
Whatever the reasons, I bombed.  Totally!  I wanted to crawl under the carpet, I wanted to simply disappear.
The truth is, even as I write this, I feel uncomfortable.
But I'm glad it happened.
No, this is not some kind of vindictive, family pay-back!
It's not a professional death-wish.
It is, in fact, a reminder of our vulnerability.
We are never completely immune to totally screwing up and it's good to remember that!
If I get too blasé before a webinar or too confident before a business meeting, I reckon it's tempting the gods.
Of course, I don't belief I'll be struck down in some way.
I'll end up striking myself down.
I'll make mistakes and I won't give enough of myself to actually do the work and get the job done as well as I can.
If I don't have to make an effort to really show up then I'm not really present.
When I go on stage or speak in front of a group (yes, even a small one!) I get nervous.
Sometimes, I get VERY nervous.  And I'm delighted that it happens
You see, the minute I stop getting nervous before I speak, I'll get worried.  If I'm not nervous, then I'll know that I'm not giving my best.
If I'm not even nervous then clearly I'm not challenging myself to get out of my comfort zone and really serve others.
So when I start feeling mildly uncomfortable.  When I start feeling the usual butterflies in my stomach and a kind of intense focus and sensitivity to everything around me, then I know I'm nearly ready.
I know that this is the state, for me, that gets me out of my safety zone and really striving to serve.  This is that way I can totally show up, to contribute and add value.
I'm not comfortable talking about my failures, but I have to.
As a reformed (maybe reforming!!) perfectionist, it's not fun admitting my many mistakes, but I have to.
That's the real world.  It's the playground where we get to really live.  It's the only way to learn and grow and keep developing.
Isn't that what life's all about?
 
Lisa Bloom is a Professional Storyteller and Accredited who helps entrepreneurs and business owners beat overwhelm, stress and discomfort with marketing to find confidence, attract ideal clients and make more money by finding their success story. Lisa's Leadership Development & Coaching Programs and Speaking gigs have engaged, motivated and inspired people world-wide!  She is delighted to offer you the complimentary ebook "Using Stories to Get Great Clients": http://www.story-coach.com 

Monday, April 1, 2013

Why You Should Listen to Some 'Happy Music' Everyday!

I've always had music in my life, from childhood to now. My mother loved music so our home was always filled with music of some kind. I remember when she bought a new record player called a 'High Fidelity' or 'Hi-Fi' player. It was in a cabinet, with big speakers and had great sound.

This was the ‘new sound technology’ of the time. It was a big step forward from the tabletop, monophonic record players most people had. Hi-Fi was the predecessor of stereo sound. She played her records all day long!

She was also a pianist; she played for our church and she played our home piano, a lot! So, it's no surprise that each of us children had to take piano lessons too. Music has always filled my life in some way. As a teen, I took voice lessons and singing turned out to be my passion!
 
There are many genres of music today: some are positive, uplifting and make you feel good, while others...are not! No matter what your general music preference is, you should include some happy music in your life.

Music is therapeutic; it speaks to our souls in ways that words can’t. It can positively shift your mood, lift your spirits and make you feel good. It’s particularly helpful when you’re feeling sad or depressed.

Music is universal. It speaks to all people no matter what their native language is. Music is a language all its own. Even plants and animals respond to music. There was a book written back in the 70s, called ‘The Secret Life of Plants’.

The book detailed a study of the effects of different kinds of music on the growth and development of plants. The researchers exposed some plants to rock music; these plants didn’t do well…some of them even died.

They exposed other plants to classical music. These plants thrived and grew larger and faster than those with no music at all. This study proved scientifically that music has a physical effect on life forms exposed to it.

I was watching a talk show this morning and the topic of music and how it influences us came up for discussion. Some researchers did a study to see what our tolerance levels for cold is (don’t ask me why they did this study, but they did).

In the study, they immersed people’s hands in ice water. They found that the people could hold their hands in the ice water longer, when they were listening to music.

Michael Strahan, ex-pro football player and co-host of the ‘Kelly and Michael’ morning show confirmed this fact. He said that football players take ice water baths after intense practice sessions. He said it was much easier for him to stay in the ice bath longer, when he listened to music through headphones.

He also said he listens to happy music before coming on the show each morning to get his energy going and set his mood. His song of preference is 'Morning' by Al Jarreau. This is a great happy song!

Playing happy music is one of my Happiness Tips from my ‘Master to Keys to Happiness System’. So if you want to feel happier and have more great days, play some happy music every day.

Whatever music you choose, select something that makes you want to sing and dance like no one is watching...'Don't Worry...Be Happy!'
 
Music, Love and Happiness to You Always,

Lyn Williams
Love and Happiness Mastery Mentor

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Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Women and Our Families vs the Old Male Business Model


We've been hearing a lot about Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer's decision to discontinue the company's 'work-at-home' policy, and Facebook Exec Sheryl Sandberg's new book 'Lean In' lately. 

While I can see the reasons for the change to the work-at-home policy, I can also see the problems this is going to cause for working parents who are going to be greatly impacted by this change.

Yahoo's in serious trouble, and despite the problems the change will cause, the company's survival has to take precedence over the inconvenience to the employees. 

I believe it was a business decision and not a personal one. I believe it took a great deal of courage and wisdom to make this decision. Being a mother herself, I believe she knew what the cost would be to some of the employees. I also believe she chose the lesser of two very hard choices: 
1. Cancel the work-at-home policy, or
2. Lay-off employees, or worst case…let the company fail.

Sometimes the hard choices are the least popular. However, as business owners, I think we’d all make the same decision.

Sheryl Sandberg's new book (which I haven't read), raises some questions about a woman's role in the business world and how we relate to it. 

In some ways it says we're not being assertive enough. But, I don't know if she's making allowances for the fact that women are still relatively new to the 'corporate management' world; and that we behave differently in business. 

And, that there’s still a lot of resistance to women taking senior management positions. We don’t always have the same freedoms to make the same choices as men do because despite our changing society, women are still the primary care-givers for our families; the  young ones and the old ones, too. 

Until the responsibilities become more ‘balanced’, we will still be required to choose family over career, most of the time.

As stated, her model seems to imply that we should 'act/speak like men', in order to get ahead. That concept inspires at least 2 schools of thought:
1. That we should continue to try to mirror the male business model. I'm not necessarily in favor of this idea because it's doesn't allow us to be our authentic selves as women. We’ve been trying to change it, so becoming more like it, seems like taking steps backward.
2. That unless we do act/talk like men, that we aren't strong or good enough to compete with our male counter-parts. This belief means that we may never shatter the glass ceiling unless we change who we are. That doesn’t resonate with me either.

The male model didn’t really work well for anyone except the alpha males to start with. Most of the men who become corporate leaders are very often considered cold, predatory ‘sharks and barracudas’ of business who’d rather destroy their competition, than use the Universal Laws to create their own abundance and success. 

I question whether that’s the model we want to continue using in the world we’re creating now. Is that the only way we can have success and be great leaders?

While there are some merits to what she says, I think there’s a better approach. First, I think there’s a mis-communication, a disconnect in the way women express themselves. We tend to use words that dis-empower us. We hold ourselves back because we fear being called ‘bitchy’. 

On the other hand, men express themselves from a place of power, without concern as to how they’ll be perceived. Their expectation is that they’ll be perceived as strong, decisive and certain, and they are. I believe we can do that too, but in a way that’s comfortable for us. 

So perhaps the real issue is for women to learn to use different ‘words’ and behaviors so we express ourselves in ways that empower us, but still allow us to be who we are…strong, powerful, capable women…with hearts!

The question is, where and how do we start in learning to speak our decisive truth…with confidence and power?  

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Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Are You Successful...and Secretly Unhappy?


Women today are experiencing some of the best opportunities and the greatest successes we've ever had. Never before has there been so much support for us to step out and be the best at whatever we want to be.

We have incredible support systems and networks with friends, associates and families. Even companies are opening doors and allowing women to move ahead like never before. So…why are we still basically unhappy?

There’s that feeling of...something's missing…this is not enough, a kind of disconnect within us. We may ask ourselves; where’s the satisfaction and deep fulfillment we thought would come from our accomplishments and successes?

If this sounds like you, you're probably also feeling isolated because you're holding your real feelings in. It’s like your own little secret that you can’t share.

After all, you have everything you've dreamed of. Maybe you have great relationships, money, your dream job or business.

You may feel like you're the only one. Maybe you’re feeling a little 'guilty' because from all appearances you should be over the moon with your life…but you aren’t.

You can’t tell anyone because you think they’ll consider you ungrateful, insecure...maybe even a little dysfunctional because no matter what you have, it's never enough?

Well, take heart. You're not alone. Many women feel this way. They share your little 'secret'!  

The real issue isn't with what you have, or have done. Things and accomplishments, don’t make you happy, unless you already are. Happiness comes from within. The problem is more complicated than that.

Many of us have had heartbreaks, personal losses, hurts and disappointments that have never healed. Perhaps we lost a great love, a child, a dream was crushed, or we suffered some kind of physical, verbal or emotional abuse in our past.

As professional women, we tend to 'move past' these kinds of experiences and sweep them under the rug. We bury ourselves in our work, and tell ourselves we don’t have time to heal our emotions. We just ‘deal with it’! But, we don’t really deal with it at all.

In time, we may feel better but that’s because we’ve consciously buried our feelings. We think we’ve healed, but what we’ve really done is ‘swept our stuff under our emotional rug’…and the stuff is still there.

For the most part, we function fine and life goes on. But, the truth is, these unhealed emotions are like ticking time bombs…subject to blow up at any time. And, when they do, they can blow your life apart….I know…it happened to me.

So, what are some indicators that you may have this ticking time bomb inside of you? The biggest one is you’re unhappy! Maybe you feel depressed, have headaches, anxiety, sleeplessness, feel mis-understood, invisible or unappreciated.

Do you drink a little too much, or too often? Do you overeat? Do you bury yourself in work and never take time for fun? Maybe you suppress your feelings and you’ve shut your heart down...maybe you’re taking medications that really don’t seem to work.

The real issue is the heart-broken little girl inside of you, she’s still hurting. To help her heal, you must lift the rug, connect with her and heal her broken little heart. She’s been neglected and basically told to go to her room. Your intention was to deal with her needs later…but you never did.

Well ladies…it’s time to open the door, call her out and give her the love, healing and attention she needs and deserves. She’s not going away and she can’t heal herself, but you can and you must.

No amount of success, accumulations of possessions, or even the most loving partner can help you heal the hole in that little girl’s heart. That’s something only you can do.

The great news is, the solution is simple; you can do it, and it doesn’t take that long when you have the right tools. Don’t get me wrong…I didn’t say easy…I said simple.

So, the question is…do you want to be happy? Do you want to actually enjoy the success and accomplishments you’ve worked so hard to achieve…yes?

Then, the next question is…what are you going to do about it? The tools are available, I have them…all you have to do is use them.

Is this you? Do you know anyone who’s like this…successful and unhappy…maybe feeling like there’s nothing they can do about it? Please share this article with them. I’d really love to help.

Lyn Williams
www.TheWomanExec.com

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Someone Asked, Is 'PTSD' Contagious? Here's My Answer...

When a ‘warrior’ comes home from the battlefield, they carry tremendous emotional damage from the violence and atrocities they’ve experienced. Some people are stronger than others, so they may not exhibit the extreme behaviors that some others do.

We know that women who’ve been abused, raped, experienced violence and major loss, etc, suffer from a form of PTSD. The trauma they’re exposed to from PTSD partners is transferred like this:

Imagine living with a man (or woman) who’s spent months or years with gunfire around them, being shot at, feeling threatened 24-hrs a day and living in constant fear of dying in a violent confrontation.

In war zones, physical threats of death…violent death is a way of life. Battles bring another intense form of trauma. The bombs, the deaths of friends, seeing/experiencing horrible injuries, dead bodies, attacks from the enemy…all of this is constant.

When the warrior comes home, they can’t just leave all of that stuff behind like flipping a light switch. Very often they have violent nightmares, are very depressed and paranoid; some are too afraid to leave home and can’t handle crowds our being in public places.

A car backfiring can set off a fear experience or a defensive assault against whomever’s around. In our society, even real gunfire is possible in our neighborhoods, and that can trigger an episode. They often become alcoholics and drug abusers as they try to cope. This adds another layer of dysfunction.

Imagine being awakened in the middle of the night with your partner sitting on your chest with his hands around your throat, choking you because he’s in the middle of a nightmare memory of a battle experience and he thinks you’re the enemy.

Imagine awaking to the sounds of screams and seeing him or her fighting off an ‘imaginary’ assailant, in an encounter you can’t see or understand.

Imagine living with sudden outbursts of fear and anger as they struggle with the emotional roller coaster of a severely traumatized soul and mind.

That loving partner that left a year ago, may come home completely transformed into a violent, uncontrollable, unpredictable monster.

I remember my friends, William and Sandy having these experiences after he returned from Viet Nam, back in the 60s. The battlefields of today may be even worse because our weapons and tactics are more advanced. Not to mention our soldiers are experiencing multiple deployments now.

The families of these ‘warriors’ are in no way prepared or capable of dealing with the after effects of a war-damaged psyche. Our professionals are having a hard time treating them and they’re trained to heal these conditions.

EFT seems to be one of the most effective healing modalities for treating these conditions so far. It’s being used to help the soldiers and first responders who’ve had recent trauma and is also being used for some long term trauma victims of previous wars like Viet Nam and Desert Storm.

I woke up this morning remembering what my friend William went through after returning from Viet Nam. Until you’ve witnessed one of their outbursts, it’s hard to imagine what it’s like.

This is how the trauma of PTSD can be ‘transmitted’ to the family of the warrior; and it’s not just the partners, the children will be affected too. Unfortunately, they’re probably not as vocal about what they’re experiencing and probably are not getting the attention they need either.

We’ll probably see more of how the children have been affected as they grow up and act out their own traumatized behaviors. Who knows, we may already be seeing the effects now, as some of the kids shooting other people are teens who could have had parents deployed in Desert Storm.

As an energy healer and life coach, I encourage anyone who’s experiencing any form of PTSD to seek help from an EFT Practitioner and medical professional. Whether you’re a wounded warrior, an abused woman or the child of a PTSD sufferer, ask for help as soon as possible.

Assistance and healing is available. EFT (aka Tapping) works! It’s one of the most effective healing practices currently being used to help those with PTSD.

I used it, along with Reiki to heal my own moderate PTSD and depression experiences over the last decade, which is why I’m an energy healer working with clients today.

I don’t work specifically with PTSD sufferers, but I do work with clients who have light to moderate depression, and those who’re looking to have happier lives in general. Being sad, unhappy and feeling isolated is an indication that depression may be an issue.

I’m not a therapist; I’m a counselor and coach, which is why I limit my practice to those who are healthy enough to help themselves.

If you’re suffering from severe PTSD or depression (thinking of suicide would qualify as severe depression), please seek professional help from a medical or psychiatric professional right away.

Love and Light to you Always...
Rev. Lyn
http://www.thewomanexec.com

Monday, January 21, 2013

Wonderful America!

On this very ‘Special’ day as we celebrate the birthday of one of our greatest leaders, Martin Luther King, and the inauguration of our 44th President of the United States, Barack Obama, the first African American president, we’re also celebrating Freedom, Choice, Love and Service.

So, in honor of this ‘Wonderful’ expression of what America is really all about, I give thanks for and bless our ‘Wondrous’ nation for the opportunities it provides for us to freely express and experience ourselves, pursue our dreams and have prosperity and abundance on whatever levels we desire.

There’s no other place on Earth, I’d rather be than right here in America…it’s home! And, despite our challenges, at the core of our beliefs and values are the rights that we enjoy and celebrate today.

I honor all of those who’ve sacrificed so much for all of us, so that we can have the privilege of free will choice, our ancestors, our military and their families.

In my lifetime, great change has happened in our lives: Civil Rights for women and children that’s now resonating around the world, women’s rights to have their own credit, the right to love whomever you choose, birth control, man walking on the moon, the introduction of color TV, the Internet, Cell phones, DNA technology, commercial air travel, the fall of the Berlin Wall and the USSR…and too many other transformational events to name.

When I was a child, African Americans couldn’t even ride at the front of a bus or vote without great risk to life and limb; and being the leader of one of the greatest countries on Earth was really…just a dream.

But, now the world has changed, and it’s changing even more every day. I’m amazed at what has transpired, and excited to see what’s to come.

Today, I can proudly say, it is ‘Wonderful’ to be an ‘American Woman’, helping to make those changes happen by continuing to express my truth and exercise my free will choices in ways that can only happen here in this ‘Wonderful’ place called America!

God bless America! And, God bless all of you!

Monday, January 14, 2013

Transforming Your Life - What's your 2013 'wonder-ful' A-HA moment?

Today, I was 'wondering', have you had any 'A-HA' moments recently, regarding the progress of your dreams, life-path or purpose?

Have you overcome a very challenging behavior or belief; moved away from a dysfunctional life situation; or changed careers to follow your dream...

My most significant ‘A-HA’ moment was that I'd turned a corner energetically.

I've experienced many setbacks and experiences of lack and limitation in recent years. But, the Law of Attraction/Law of Manifestation work I've been doing to shift my energy, mindset and intentions has actually shifted.

I don’t have that worry-fear-stress like I used to. And, my needs are being met, even when I can’t see how it will happen. And, when I do get stressed, I use my tools and the worry-feelings reside much faster. I’m actually attracting what I need to me.

I’ve moved past my insecurities and created my first 'coaching' video series in December. Now, I’m helping other women in transition to do the same.

Even though I wasn't exactly where I 'wanted' to be on my path, and everything wasn't perfect, I realized where I was, was 'good enough'. I decided to start from right where I was and allow myself to be guided to my next steps.

Now I'm getting feedback from the new clients who are using my coaching program. It's been so great to hear about their progress and experiences...like watching a child grow up. I love rejoicing with them and hearing their stories.

If I hadn't taken my 'leap of faith' and trusted that I was ready, they wouldn't be having the wonderful, transformational experiences they're having now. That makes my heart sing!♥

What's your 'wonder-ful' A-HA moment?

Lyn
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Friday, December 21, 2012

Happy Re-Birthday!

On this very special day of our spiritual re-birth, I wish you a very 'Happy Re-birthday' filled with all the love, light, comfort and success you deserve and desire!

I've been doing additional, and longer meditations for the last 2 days. I've received many wonderful new insights...some of which I'm still receiving, so I don’t totally understand them yet.

I am feeling more inner peace and calm, even as I face the remaining challenges brought by 2012.

Frankly, I'm so glad to see 2013 coming in. The numerological energy of 2012, the #5, with all of it's challenging, need to grow, learn and stretch yourself energy, is finally winding down.

The balancing, harmonizing, gentle, loving energy of the #6 is coming in with 2013. THANK GOD for that!

I don’t know about you, but I've got stretch marks all over my body and soul; and I'm ready for a little 'ease and grace'.

So, cheers to 2013 and all that it promises. I’m excited, and ‘insighted’ to see/feel what it brings!

Love and Light to you always…
 
Rev Lyn

Monday, December 17, 2012

Remember to Remember Them!

Today, I prayed for the children, teachers, families and friends of those who were lost in last week’s violence. I also prayed for those who were lost in the recent mall shootings, and other violent events. And, I included the children who were hurt in the violent attack in China, the two police officers killed outside a store in the Midwest, and their families too.

I’m still avoiding the media news stories as much as I can, but it’s all over the internet and everywhere else. So, to help contribute something positive into the energies surrounding all of this, I’m praying for the healing and recovery of everyone. It’s my way of processing all that’s happening and addressing how it affects me too.

It’s as though there’s this wave of madness breaking out all over the world…and as my mentor, Dr. Masters has often said…that’s exactly what it is.

In one of his Sunday talks, he tells of Jesus’s encounter with Satan while he was in the wilderness. Satan offered him power and the riches of the world, if he’d join him.

Jesus refused, saying he loved us and didn’t want the power or to dominate us. Satan’s reply was…why not…they’ll be easy to control. Just look at them, they’re all insane!

Of course this is just a very general paraphrasing, but you get the point. I’ve often thought of this particular message when I sought to understand and make sense of the crazy, violent things that happen in our world. And, it makes perfectly good sense…it is insanity in every sense of the word.

I understand very well what the families of these victims are going through. I lost my son, and a sister to gun violence on June 21, 1988 and June 26, 1990, respectively; two years apart, almost to the day. It took over 18 years for me be able to get through June without 2 or more weeks of sadness and crying.

Every incidence of gun violence like we’ve had over the last decade or so, brings it all back in a very personal way. So, I pray…for those lost, and even more for those who are left behind because they are the ones who need our help the most.

There’s a lot of attention focused on them now, but soon the energy and attention will shift and they’ll be left to deal with the ‘aftermath’. That’s when they’ll really need our support and love. It’s the darkest and most difficult time of grieving.

So, I ask you to do something in your own way to remember them…for a long time. As you pray now, include a general prayer request in your prayers.

You can simply say, Spirit I send love, light, comfort and healing energy to all those I’ve prayed for in the past who still need your help to heal, recover and move through their losses, health challenges, fear and painful experiences.

I pray for lots of people, but sometimes the names are forgotten over time; or the list gets too long. For me, this felt like an effective way to still support anyone who may still be in need and struggling to heal.

People heal at different rates and sometimes there are setbacks or additional events. This general request provides spiritual support where needed, as long as it’s needed.

I ask you to join me in doing this general request for continual spiritual support as we move forward and lose sight of those who will be in need of love and comfort for a long time.

We are all one! And, by remembering and honoring the many, we also remember and honor ourselves. We all need prayer, comfort and support every day of our lives. This is one way to give our continuous support, even as life goes on.

Love and Light to you always…
Rev Lyn
TheWomanExec.com

Sunday, December 16, 2012

A word of perspective on recent events and December 12th & 21st

A word of perspective on recent events, and those that are yet to come as we ascend with Mother Earth, co-create and embrace our new lives:

I stopped watching the news reports after the 5pm news broadcast that day. I usually watch ABC Evening News with Diane Sawyer, but when they announced a special 1 hour edition, I decided then and there...no more news shows for several days...to let the furor die down.

I don’t want that energy in my consciousness, especially now; and you should be diligent and protect your consciousness too. We’re in a very powerful creative mode. That’s what all of the 12/12 and 12/21 talk is about.

I wish the media wouldn't give so much attention to these events. It's so incendiary. It encourages the mentally ill, weak-minded and unconscious to do things that will get them on tv, no matter what the cost, or how much damage they do in the process.

However, I also know that the energy behind these behaviors is that of Darkness. It is its last ditch effort to survive by creating fear and inflicting pain and suffering as we ascend into the Light.

Fear and suffering are the sustenance of Darkness, and as we buy into it, we feed that dark energy. This gives it power; at least for a little while.

But, there’s so much Light being sent to us now, and so much that’s already here, that it doesn’t really matter what the Darkness does now. We are ascending with Mother Earth.

We are co-creating a new world, along with Creator, Spirit and Mother Earth. We’re giving birth to something entirely new. What do you want to that be…look like…feel like? Set your attention there!

It’s like a new baby. Birth is a messy, intense and even risky process. But, it’s also a wonderful experience of love, once the new life emerges.

We’re now in the ‘labor’ stage. 12/12 has already passed. It was our turning onto the walkway as we approach the door.

On 12/21 we will walk through the door and leave all that isn’t of the Light behind. It’s not that all will be perfect overnight, but it will be phenomenal just the same.

I view it like moving into a new home. You move in, and once all your things are unloaded, you shut the door and your new life begins. There’s the unpacking, arranging, finding your way around your new surroundings…getting used to its energy and adjusting to your new life.

While the transition is in process many things will happen. Some of it will be challenging, but more of it will be enlightening and inspiring. Some changes will be subtle, while others will be profound.

All of us will experience it in our own ways; according to our sensitivity, perspectives and levels of awareness. This is a very auspicious time for Earth and for all of her life forms.

Stay focused on the energies of Light, Love, Balance, Order, Security, Comfort and Power…give your energy to that which you want to happen; despite appearances and what you see around you…give your attention to the Light!

In the next weeks and months, we may find ourselves processing through more disturbing events. Keep them in perspective. Use your ‘MAP’ tools (meditation, affirmation and prayer) as often as necessary to stay centered and comfortable.

Ask your angels and guides for guidance, protection, clarity and assistance where and when you need it. They are here for us and are available 24/7, but you must ask. Asking is simple.

If you don’t know a particular angel or guide’s name, just ask for assistance from the angels and guides of the Light, Love, of higher realms, of heaven and those who serve Spirit, and they will come.

Remember to support this transitional process with your love, light and courage. Light always dispels darkness. So, turn on your light, and let it shine brightly…and all will be well!

Love and Light to you always…
 
Rev Lyn

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Law of Attraction: Why Doesn't It Work for Me?

There are a great many examples and displays of the Law of Attraction and how it works all around us. There are also lots of writings, perspectives and explanations of its power; and all are very enlightening. But, many are lacking substance and useful information.

In my heart I can't help feeling a bit disappointed that the world we live in has mis-lead and brainwashed us so badly that our experience of the Law has been distorted at best, and in too many instances…damaging.

For many people, the mis-use of the Law of Attraction has created more painful experiences than pleasant ones. These painful experiences have created emotional blocks and scars that have compromised our joy, love, success and even our health. As a result, we have to overcome many issues, and are required to re-train our minds in order to make this ‘natural process’ work for us.

Most of us feel like the Law of Attraction is working us, instead of us working the Law. And, there’s some truth to this belief. It seems so unfair, because this Law, this Divine Energy was designed to be our benefactor and the creative medium we were to use to create the lives of our dreams.

But, rather than go into all of the reasons why we’ve come to this place of ignorance and confusion about the Law of Attraction, I’ll use this time to talk about how we can correct our beliefs and behaviors, so we can begin to experience the wonderful things the Law can bring to us.

There are many ‘Laws’ of the Universe. There’s the ‘Law of Belief’: it is done unto you as you believe. There’s the ‘Law of Gravity’: it’s what makes this physical Universe possible; it’s what holds everything together, and us to the Earth.

And, there’s the ‘Law of Attraction’, which is more commonly interpreted as you ‘reap what you sow’; simply put, that’s exactly what it is. You receive the energy equivalent of what you put out. And, like the other Laws, it works whether you know it exists or not; whether you believe it works or not; and whether or not you consciously work with it.

The Law of Gravity is based on the power of magnetism. It always ensures that everything physical will be drawn to the center of gravity of the largest celestial body around or near it. This is a very simplistic explanation that suffices for this conversation.

The Law of Attraction is based on energetic/emotional vibrations. Here on Earth, we are the emotional vibration centers. Therefore, the Law will draw to us, our emotional vibrational equivalent.

All emotions have vibrational frequencies. You can feel the energies of love, joy, fear and hate. Love and joy make us feel good; fear and hate do not. For us it means that what we feel, determines what comes to us. In order for the Law of Attraction to work for us and attract the things we want, we have to be emoting at certain vibrational frequencies…consistently.

And, therein lies the problem. Most of us are not in control of our emotions. Very often we’re expressing them dysfunctionally, and at other times, we’re in the ‘negative zone’. As a result, we create more of what we don’t want, than what we want.

For example, many of us are filled with fear, worry, stress, anger, resentment and depression. These are very low frequency emotions that restrict the ability of the Law of Attraction to bring the good things we want in life to us. These energies are incompatible with the positive energies of abundance, prosperity, love, joy and success.

It’s like the energy fields of a magnet; one end is positively charged and the other end is negatively charged. When the compatible energy ends of two magnets face each other, they are drawn together. When the opposing energy ends face each other, the magnets are pushed apart.

Our emotions work the same way. So, in order for us to use the Law of Attraction correctly, we have to get our emotions vibrating at a level that attracts what we want, instead of repelling it. It’s a principle of the Universe that incompatible energies can’t come together.

As simple as the concept of the Law of Attraction is, there are many complexities underlying how we interact with it. Our experiences, beliefs, programming (by parental and societal training and behaviors), all affect our ability to work with the Law.

Our experiences and belief systems are usually set during our childhood. We are deeply imprinted by what we see, feel and hear from our parents, teachers, and surroundings early on. Let’s talk about that for a minute.

If you grew up in a home where your parents struggled with money and never seemed to have enough; maybe even fought a lot about the lack and limitations the were experiencing, you probably have a lack and limitation mindset that’s deeply rooted in your subconscious mind.

Without knowing it, you continue to create the lack and limitation conditions that you learned in your childhood. Those deep seated, unconscious belief systems will require clearing in order for you to turn things around. But, don’t worry…it can be cleared.

Conversely, if you grew up in a home where there was abundance and prosperity, and your parents were loving and respectful of each other and their children, you probably have an unconscious ability to make the Law of Abundance work for you. You simply do it without thinking about it.

Another channel for negative programming may come from our religious training, or lack thereof. Perhaps you were told that money was evil, or that rich people were materialistic and selfish. That they took advantage of others and couldn’t be trusted.

You may have been taught that having money would ruin you, or that you’d be corrupted if you ever became successful and wealthy. Maybe you were taught that money wasn’t spiritual and that only poor people would be worthy of going to heaven.

But, none of that is true. And yet, you were programmed to live a life of lack and limitation, fear and insecurity and confusion. As a result, no amount of positive thinking is going to make the Law of Attraction work for you until you clear and reframe your beliefs. Then and only then, will you be able to work the Law of Attraction as it was designed and intended.

The bottom line is this. You CAN change your beliefs, learn to use the Law of Attraction correctly, and create the life you’ve always wanted. There are practices, techniques and healing modalities available to make this transformation happen.

All you have to do is decide you want to live a life of abundance, joy and love, and then take action to make it happen. Your life won’t transform overnight, but once you start the journey, you will see results…and fairly quickly.

So…it’s all up to you! You can live in denial and limitation and tell yourself there’s nothing you can do about it, or you can take control of your life and make the Law work for you. Make that choice today…and start living the life of your dreams.

Love and Light to you always…♥
Law of Attraction: Making It Work for You
Intro: http://youtu.be/JJhlXqS3nZg
A New Story:  http://youtu.be/rWgXdYZHBI4

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Women, PTSD and Alternative Healing

An associate is writing a piece on the connection and impacts of PTSD on the recovery of brain injury victims. She asked those of us who’ve dealt with it for comments. As I wrote my response, I realized that this information could be important to others in many ways.

I don't have a brain injury, but I've been dealing with PTSD for about 7 years now as a result of several years of emotional and mental abuse in a marriage. It was compounded when he and my youngest, and last surviving sister both passed within 6 months of each other. Shortly after, I lost my career, and soon ran out of money, all of this happened within a year (2005-2006).

When my symptoms first appeared in late 2004, I began to realize I hadn't healed from other loses either. My son was murdered in 1988, and my second oldest sister was murdered in 1990, both victims of violence. My mom and my oldest sister passed between 1995 and 1987, respectively.

I tried traditional treatments but they didn't help much. So I turned to alternative healing. I became a Reiki Master and Tapping practitioner and used these energy healing modalities to heal myself and understand how and why it happened to me.

I used to think PTSD was a result of war trauma. Now I know that's not always the case. During my research I found statistics saying approx 30% of women suffer from mild to severe PTSD as a result of loss and abuse.

Mine was pretty bad for a long time. I'm still healing, but I'm much better now. Far too often traditional treatments like therapy and medications don't address the energetic and spiritual injuries at the root of PTSD.

We know physical abuse is bad because it leaves scars. However, emotional and mental abuse leave no visible scars because they happen at the soul level. We also don’t realize that along with emotional and mental abuse, there’s usually a sexual abuse component. That can be mild to severe in its own right.

Unless you’ve experienced it yourself, you don’t realize how incredibly damaging any kind of abuse can be. But, once the deep soul-level issues are healed, the trauma heals too.

Unfortunately, our society doesn't recognize the real impact of abuse unless it's physical, so the injuries go unnoticed and sufferers are expected and told to 'just get over it and move on'. But, it’s not that simple.

This ‘advice’, though well-intended only makes things worse because it makes the person feel there’s something ‘wrong or broken’ in them because they can’t just get over it and move on. Now their already damaged self-esteem bottoms.

Feelings of helplessness, unworthiness and rejection set in and become impacted in the psyche. The trauma deepens and they sink into despair. This is when substance abuse and thoughts of suicide begin. I know…I’ve been there.

Medications often make things worse because it becomes the lifeline for the sufferer. They can't function without it. Medications are like band-aids on bullet wounds. Healing the real trauma that resides in the 'energy and spiritual body' is the real key to recovery.

For more information and coaching for healing, please send an email to: talkwithlyn@gmail.com

Some articles on Tapping (EFT) Energy Healing and PTSD:






Friday, August 10, 2012

The 10 Commandments of Facebook Fan Pages

Do you have a Facebook Fan Page? If you do, are you aware that there are some 'specific rules' you must follow, otherwise you run the risk of the Facebook Police shutting down your fan page...without warning!

It happens all the time, and you'll never get any advance warning. One day you'll just go to your page and it won't be there. 

What if your clients go looking for your page and it's not there? They'll probably assume you closed it down and are no longer in business, while this could be far from the truth.

If you don't have a big following, or are just starting out, this may not be a big deal. You just start over. But...if you have a large following and your business depends on your fan page to thrive...it could be catastrophic!

So, take a look at the list below and see if you're in compliance. If you aren't, take steps to make the necessary changes before you get 'busted'...

Here’s what you need to know…

The Ten Commandments of Facebook Fan Pages

  1. Thou shall not have pricing information in your cover
      photo.
  1. Thou shall not have purchase information in your
      cover photo.
  1. Thou shall not have discount or coupon information in
      your cover photo.
  1. Thou shall not have any ‘call to action’ (i.e. Get It
      Now’, Tell Your Friends, Join Our Club, etc)
      information in your cover photo.
  1. Thou shall not have any contact information in your
      cover photo.
  1. Thou shall not put any references to Facebook
      features i.e. ‘Like My Page’ or ‘Share’ in your cover
      photo.
  1. Thou shall not have any false representations in your
      cover photo.
  1. Thou shall not have any deceptive or misleading
      information in your cover photo.
  1. Thou shall not use any copyrighted photos or
      graphics in your cover photo unless you hold the
      copyright.
  1. Thou shall not infringe on any third parties’ intellectual
      property in your photo.

Violate any of these rules (among others) and you run the
risk of Facebook shutting your Fan Page down without
warning.

If you don’t have a page, or you have a casual following, that
may not be a big deal to you.

But, if your Fan Page is business critical, you could lose
$1000s…maybe even the business itself.

I know what the rules are, and I can help you prevent a
disaster.

On the other hand, if you don’t have a Fan Page…you
should create one, or have us create it for you.

No matter how big or how small your business or cause is,
you should have a Facebook Fan Page, create and use your
vanity name, and invite people to ‘Like’ your page.

It helps establish your credibility and presence on the web,
especially if you don’t have a website!

Need some help sorting things out, let me know.

If don’t have a fan page but would like to have
one, send me a message. I can set it up for you.

Lyn
Your Social Media Consultant
http://www.thewomanexec.com

Saturday, June 2, 2012

5 Steps to Start a Business on Shoestring!

I wish I could say you can start a business with no money, but the truth is you can’t. You’ll need some money, but it doesn’t have to be a lot if you leverage the assets you have. If you plan and budget properly, you can still start your business now.

Fortunately, there are a lot of free or low-cost resources available to the new entrepreneur. High unemployment and a bleak job outlook have caused many people to look for alternatives to finding a new job. This also means the need to start a business on a small budget is great. The result is an environment that supports and serves this ‘start a business on a shoestring’ mindset. Hence, the reason for writing this book.

I am one of those ‘business on a shoestring’ entrepreneurs. This book contains the tips and shortcuts I used to start my business while on unemployment. I’ve found many online companies and resources that offer low-cost or free services that help you create a business with very little money, if you’re willing to commit to the effort. I won’t tell you it’s going to be easy, it won’t. But, if you’re willing to trade sweat equity and self-education for the convenience of hiring or outsourcing certain tasks, you can do it. And, the experience will be priceless.

1. Evaluate your current skills set and assets

Make a list of the skills you have. Then, decide which of them can be marketed to other businesses or people so you can start earning money as soon as possible.

Research your business options. Online businesses are the best way. Look into freelance consulting. Art, writing and customer services may be for good starters. Sites like elance.com are good for writer’s gigs, and Monster.com and Craigslist offer ads for consultants. EzineArticles.com and SelfGrowth.com are good sites to publish your original articles for exposure and building your mailing list.

If you have or can buy the proper office equipment and software, and you have good office and/or bookkeeping skills, becoming a virtual assistant could work well for you. Contact former bosses and former co-workers for referrals to people they know who may be interested in your services.

Ask yourself these questions:

Can you create your own blog or website?

Can you write your own articles and ebooks?

Is there a market for consultants in your previous field of employment?

Do you have administrative skills that you can provide to others as a virtual assistant?

Do you have expertise in a certain subject that’s in demand today?

What kind of office/computer equipment do you already have to create a home office?

What kind of personal/business network do you have, i.e. Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, LinkedIn? Are you proficient in using them?

Tip: Don’t say anything about your business plans to your current boss or co-workers unless you’re going to be partners in your new business. If you do, it will come back to bite you…I guarantee it!

2. How much of your income/savings can you comfortably invest in your new business

I say ‘comfortably’ because the last thing you need to do is create more stress in your life by putting too much money in your business and not being able to pay your bills. You’ll need a small amount of money each month for things like webhosting, buying cheap services, buying supplies, etc. Maybe you can trade skills with someone you know to get certain services done for you for free.

If you’re still working, or are newly unemployed, I highly recommend starting your business as soon as possible while you still have cash flow. Don’t wait until your money’s running low, or your unemployment benefits are about to expire to get started. It may take a few months before you’re making enough money to live on. And, you can do a lot more and grow your business much faster when you still have an income other than your new business.

3. Find free and low-cost resources on the internet

One of my favorite sites is: www.fivver.com. It’s a place where you can find every kind of service (called gigs) from the normal to the outrageous…for only $5! There are literally 1000s of people offering to do almost everything you can imagine, as long as it’s not porn or illegal. You can spend hours just browsing the site.

As with anything, some of the providers are better than others. You can click on a gig and read the referrals to get an idea of how they work. If it’s a new vendor, you can email them to ask questions or request samples of their work before you buy. And, if you’re not satisfied with their work, you can cancel your order.

You can also sell your services on the site as long as you’re willing to do it for $5. The site keeps $1 of each gig, so your profit will be $4 per gig. I bought a logo, book cover, video testimonial and some great promotional connections on Fivver. I also have several gigs registered, 3 for business and 1 for fun…doing dream interpretations! Wouldn’t you know the dream interpretation is the one that pulled the first sale! One warning though, be careful…it can be addicting…like chocolate!

You’ll also find other no or low-cost products and resources by searching the internet. I have several recommendations for products and services that I or someone I know has used available on my website: www.thewomanexec.com.  

4. Use Facebook, Twitter, and other networking sites to promote your business

If you’re proficient with Facebook and Twitter, use them for promoting your business. If you already have established networks on sites like LinkedIn or Ning, let your connections know what you’re doing. They can be invaluable referral and support systems that can greatly accelerate your success. These are established relationships can be connections to other entrepreneurs and professionals who may do business with you because you have friends in common. Depending on what your business is, you may be able to exchange services to get what you need.

Look into using Facebook ads to promote your business. It’s probably the best bang for your advertising buck. Use Craigslist and other free ad sites to market your business as well. Don’t forget flyers and business cards. They still work to keep your business in the public eye.

5. Use the Google Adwords Tool to find a topic for your ebook and products

If you’re a writer, don’t start writing before you check your topic on Google. It helps you determine what the current hot topics are. Very often we want to write about what we love, and that’s ok. But, if your passion project is basket weaving, and you want to make money, it might be a better idea to choose another subject. I’m not saying don’t write the basket weaving ebook, just plan to write another one for profit.

Use the Google Adwords Tool. It can be found at: Google Adwords Tool. Click on the ‘Get keyword ideas’ link at the bottom of the page. Enter your subject phrases in the search box, and type in the green pass code below it. When you hit enter, you’ll get a list of topics with statistics on how many searches come in for the phrase and variations of the phrase. Find the topic that gets the largest number of searches, then choose a variation of that topic that has a smaller number of searches. Choosing one whose search counts are somewhere in the middle, but still within the topic will give you a better chance at getting on page 1 or 2 of the search results.

For instance, my topic ‘start a business’ has over 800,000 searches, but ‘steps to start a business’ only has 9900. This means instead of competing with over 800,000 other references with ‘start a business’ as my topic, I’ll only have 9900 competitors by using ‘steps to start a business’ as my topic. This gives me a much tighter target audience, and 9900 is large enough market to give me good sales. I’ll still be within the topic of the broader search, and a few others so my returns should be good. With a few SEO tweaks and refinements, I could be on page 1 of the search results instead of page 500!

So, now you know it is possible to start a business on a shoestring. All you need is a little knowledge, and a few good tips and you’re on your way.

Here’s to your success!!!

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Watch Your Words...They Empower Your Life

Our words have power and using the right ones can move you forward, create obstacles or hold you back.

I was reading a comment from a member of one of my LinkedIn groups who eliminated the auto-response word 'sorry' from her vocabulary and it reminded me of some of the vocabulary adjustments I've made that have made a significant difference in my life.

The first one was the word ‘anxious’. This was several years ago. I wrote a writer friend to express my feelings about having my book published and I said I was ‘anxious’ to get it done. She quickly corrected me and said ‘try using the word ‘eager’ instead of ‘anxious’. It carries a much more positive energy.

The next word swap came from my former Religious Science minister Rev David Phears. We were talking about some experiences I was having after my ex-husband passed. He asked how I was doing and I said, ‘Oh, I’m surviving!’ Immediately he said, ‘Let’s change that word ‘surviving’ to ‘thriving’. It’ll help shift your energy and move you towards healing and perfect health faster.’

He was right! The shift was almost immediate. Even if you're not feeling that powerful in that moment, saying you're thriving empowers and uplifts you, while saying you're surviving depletes your energy and makes you feel helpless or hopeless.

I also replaced 'I'll try or I'm trying' with 'I intend to or I'm intending to'. Trying sends the energy into the future which is uncertain, while 'intend' brings it into the present and sets your intention to succeed.

And, I switched the word 'should' with 'I am going to, or I will...'. This one's a little trickier because it's a subtler transfer of your energy to sometime or somewhere else; it infers 'a maybe...uncertainty'. It allows you an 'out' or an option not to do something.

Most recently, I’ve started using 'I think' instead of 'I believe' because it doesn't make people feel like I'm imposing my views on them or give them the feeling that their opinions should be changed in some way. Saying you 'think' something is sometimes perceived as an attempt convince or change another person's point of view or mindset.

And, even if you are suggesting a change, saying you 'believe' says it's your belief and that it's ok if they don't agree with your belief. I found it to be a softer approach and there's usually less resistance, and it seems to encourage discussion. But, I’m still consciously adjusting with this one, so it’s still a work in progress.

So...what words have you changed to empower the language you use?